‘Make sure your worst enemy is not living between your own two ears’ – The benefits of being compassionate to yourself.

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We hear a lot about self compassion lately so, as we start a new year, we thought it might be a good idea to look at the benefits of being a little more gentle and kinder to ourselves. Let’s take a quick look at the basic pattern that most of us will recognise around the new year. We make resolutions, we start those resolutions and within 2 weeks we have given up and deem that we have failed, and… are probably quite self-critical before we give up on those resolutions altogether until the next new year. So, what can we do differently and how can we step out of this cycle of “failing” at our resolutions? The answer lies in a different approach altogether. One that moves away from criticising ourselves – (yes, being our own worst enemy) – and moves towards treating ourselves with more compassion when we ‘fail’. The end result is that we are more likely to return to these resolutions if we fall back into old habits because we don’t listen to that little (or big) voice in our head telling us that we can’t do those things because we are too stupid/greedy/unmotivated/unworthy (delete as appropriate to your own critical voice).

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The OutdoorCureOnline Seven Benefits of Tuning in to Your Compassionate Self
1) It increases motivation by helping us tune out of the self-critical voice that wants us to fail and tune in to the gentler voice that encourages us and believes in us.
2) Developing an ability to be kind and caring to ourselves builds resilience by increasing our ability to respond effectively to set backs and difficulties.
3) It enhances self worth because we are tuning out of the critical thoughts that we often tell ourselves and readily take on board.
4) It is linked to a reduced tendency to compare oneself to others, a huge factor in improving body image.
5) Research suggests that those individuals who are more self compassionate suffer less and thrive more having a positive effect on their wellbeing.
6) Being compassionate reduces mental health problems including anxiety and depression.
7) It improves how you manage in a stressful situation, by not further depleting our energy resources.
Self compassion does not happen overnight. It is a skill that must be learnt and practiced in order to become embedded as a lifestyle shift. Keep an eye on our social media accounts this year as we will be focusing on skills and techniques that can help!
The OutdoorCureOnline Team x

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